Indecision doesn’t always look chaotic.
Sometimes it’s a quiet loop of internal conversations in your mind. You start to wonder if you’re being wise or just afraid. Strategic or self-sabotaging. You go back and forth, again and again, while time passes, and you still haven’t made a decision.
What we’re often told is to “trust ourselves.” However, what we’re rarely shown is how.
What if I told you that there’s a way to make decisions that doesn’t leave you depleted, doubtful, or disconnected? A way that honors your emotional truth, your spiritual alignment, and your future self — all at once?
It isn’t necessarily about always getting it right, but’s about getting clarity while staying grounded as you choose.
Clarity Begins Where Fear Ends
Indecision often signals that fear is driving the process. Not wisdom. Not discernment. Fear of disappointing others, of choosing wrong, of being judged for wanting more.
Ask yourself:
- What am I afraid this choice might cost me?
- Whose approval am I afraid to lose?
- Am I seeking clarity — or permission?
You can’t choose clearly when you’re trying to manage other people’s expectations.
Clarity comes when you shift the question from What if I fail? to What aligns with my values, my vision, my peace?
Listen for Peace, Not Just Logic
Good decisions don’t always feel easy. But they usually feel peaceful. From my own experiences, there’s usually a calm that comes when something is aligned, even if it stretches you. What I’ve learnt is that the voice of God doesn’t pressure, bur rather guides.
Here’s a practice:
- Sit with each option quietly — no phone, no noise.
- Ask: If I chose this, who would I become?
- Ask again: Would I still respect myself after?
Listen for the path that makes you feel more whole — not more impressive.
Don’t Over-consult Yourself Into Confusion
Hello – very guilty of this here ! Anyone else? 😀 It’s wise to seek counsel. But too much input can crowd your own voice, and you start living in someone else’s blueprint.
There’s a difference between guidance and outsourcing. Eventually, you have to own the seat at the table of your own life. You can still say: “Thank you for your thoughts. I’m going to take time to hear what I really need.” You don’t need a unanimous vote. You need inner agreement.
Hold Grace for the Grief of Letting Go
Part of why decisions feel heavy is because every choice involves some loss. Not necessarily a mistake, but a closing of one chapter for another. Sometimes the grief isn’t about the choice. It’s about what you hoped something could be.
That’s okay.
You’re allowed to mourn what’s ending, and still move toward what’s better.
Courage isn’t about detachment. It’s about commitment.
Anchor the Decision, Then Build Stability Around It
Once you’ve chosen, return to your rhythms. Don’t rush to explain or justify. I know that this can be so tempting, especially if its something that already you were unsure of disappointing or somewhat fearful of what others will say?
Instead, stabilize:
- What boundaries will protect this choice?
- What habits will support it?
- Who needs to know — and who doesn’t?
This is how you move from spinning to steady, especially after you’ve made the decision.
What It All Comes Down To
You’ve spent enough time circling, and I’m willing to bet, more than enough time wondering whether your desires are too much or your instincts too risky. The truth is: God trusted you with your own life. That means your voice, your values, your peace matter.
So, in the end, what it al comes down to isnt about never being unsure. I want you to know that it’s okay to be unsure. What this helps you with, is how to stand in your decision, even (and especially when) the path isn’t perfectly lit.
I wish you good decisions!
The goal isn’t perfect decisions.
It’s to stop abandoning yourself in the name of being “wise.”
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